Emily
 I wanted to just pop on here because I've just finished transcribing an email to my list about something that's been on my mind all day. I in my own healing journey as a somatic practitioner and someone who works with teams on their nervous system every single day, is my duty as a practitioner to be constantly working on the things that help me be my best self right?

And I've been healing for, I would say like 10 years now using many different modalities, but in the last three to five years, it's been through connecting with the body. I still do a lot of the neuroscience work and a lot of work connecting the body and the mind, but I would say I'm pretty good at that stuff now. And that's why I can help so many people do it themselves too. Now, one of the things that I do frequently is

check in with my body and it's what Linnea Pustler says. So Linnea Pustler is an expert in the nervous system and she's got something called body fullness. It's practicing body fullness on a daily basis. And the time when I do this most actively is on my dog walks, right? So usually I don't walk the dog until around 10 a.m. I don't get up till nine. I'm not an early starter. I would love to be, but I'm just not in the winter. And on these dog walks, I notice if I'm okay or not.

that day and okay to me is feeling in a calm, relaxed state, a state of peace. There might be things on my mind, but the things on my mind are not impacting how my body feels and how my physical state and emotional state is. And I have a framework that I use and I would call this a green. I have a color spectrum and a green is where you feel totally relaxed, totally calm and you feel pretty optimistic about the day and

you'll notice that in those moments you feel like anything could happen. Anything is an opportunity, things are really good and it's when your nervous system is feeling engaged and it's totally down regulated. It isn't activated, there's no fight or flight going on and this state is a really nice place to be and often we're not in that state and most of us don't know how to elicit that state either and that's something that I've worked on for the last

Emily (02:24.116)
year and a half I would say like I've been hyper focused on being able to elicit the green state. Now something that I've noticed that I've had for a long time it's been there in the background like an air conditioning unit for a long long time is this feeling of urgency, this feeling of having to go and do something like when I talk about it now actually I can feel it in my body I can feel the contraction when I put an awareness on it it kind of elicits itself but

This feeling that if I sit and do nothing, something bad will happen. Like I'm not safe or I'm going to let myself down. I'm going to let other people down that I'm not good enough, right? It elicits a lot of beliefs. And at the end of the day, most beliefs come back to one thing and that is either I'm not safe. No, it's I'm not safe because if I'm deficient, I'm also not safe, right? And so when you're not safe, your body automatically responds in a way that kicks you.

into a state that will keep you safe. So in a yellow state, what I call a yellow state, fight or flight, right? Or a red, even if you're like super hyper activated, red is like the highest end of the spectrum. You will feel like I have to go do something and that go do something is your body telling you, go keep me safe, please. And I know exactly where this came from. had...

all of this through childhood I was always expected to be doing something like if I was idle I was in trouble if I wasn't doing something good I was in trouble so it comes from developmental trauma with a small t I would say and I've lived with this throughout my whole adulthood and it's actually made me a success like I've been able to excel in my career I made the most money I ever made in my life I have developed a big reputation in specific industries like

It's really, really, really helped me and hijacking and being in that state of urgency has really kickstarted my career and my business. And it's helped me to get through really tough times as well. But when you're in that state of urgency for too long, it just wears down your nervous system and it wears down your body. And you need to learn how to

Emily (04:44.706)
define is this urgency good for me right now or is it detrimental? Now this urgency might be good for you if there is something that really, really needs to get done right now, like right now that'll keep you safe. And maybe you're actually in danger right now and your body does need the urgency to keep you to do things. Or maybe, haven't got any examples so I'll my head, but maybe if you are at work.

and you've got a big deadline and that urgency is fueling you. It's more of a healthy urgency, I would say, because it's not a constant urgency. It's this, I need to go do something and this deadline is keeping me accountable and you can feel it in your stomach, but it's not overwhelming and it's not chronic. And by chronic, I mean it's constantly there. So that's a different kind of urgency. It's like almost a nervous excitement urgency. So it feels

kind of similar, but it's different. Now, when you're in an urgent state, where you feel like you always have to be doing something, and I'm gonna just explain to you what I mean by this, and how it shows up for me sometimes. I'm gonna give you a bit of a story here very quickly, but I do a lot of energetic work, and I've worked with loads of spiritual healers and stuff, and I used to go into the body, and I used to feel this urgency, like an air conditioning that was constantly whirring.

in the background and I used to identify it as my scarcity dragon. I thought it was telling me that I had to go do something because if I didn't then I would be without. So partially I was like okay I need to go work on my scarcity then. But the more I've developed my somatic practice and worked with all my different practitioners and done all my own qualifications and everything, I've just realised that this is just a chronic

activated state in my body and it's not helping me anymore. And so what I now do is I realize when I'm in a bad urgent state, this air conditioned state where I'm constantly feeling like I need to get up and do the laundry or like this morning for example, I was on the dog walk and I could feel the urgency bubbling and it's like a contraction in my chest and it's like vibrating and then it makes me feel a bit sick and I'm like, why are you here?

Emily (07:12.654)
Urgency why are you here? I talked to it. I put it outside of myself. I do both parts work on it if you're interested in that kind of stuff and When I talk to it as an external thing it tells me that if I don't do something I'm not safe. Okay, cool Well, we are safe right now We're in a lovely dog walk actually and the way I deal with it is I try different techniques that I know work specifically for me doesn't work for everyone to move me back into a regulated state

So something that I do with all of my clients is called semantic resourcing or safety resourcing. And we, it's kind of similar to what people do in NLP, but a bit different. And it's finding something that you know will automatically move you into a place of regulation. And this doesn't happen instantly, by the way, you get this from consistently practicing this resource and my favorite results in the world. And the one thing that always helps me is orienting and orienting is

really tuning in to what's happening in your environment right now. Hi Sylvia, hi Suzie and I today felt this urgency, fizziness bubbling in my chest and so I knew what was happening, I knew why it was there, I've worked on it in the past and it's constantly a work in progress for me because it's really deep and I've just noticed Nikon's little paws on the gravel and I heard the lovely birds in the tree

And then I heard the distant sound of the traffic. And then I felt the cold on my cheeks. And slowly as I breathed into this experience, I could feel that my whole body relaxed, my shoulders relaxed, my breathing relaxed. And I noticed that I was in a state of calm and peace. And that's exactly what I want you to learn to do when this kind of urgency comes up because

Living in state of urgency is only good if we are unsafe and we don't have to be doing something all the time. We don't have to be run, run, run. If we stop, nothing bad's going to happen. We have to really understand that. And most entrepreneurs I work with have this. They have this urgency in the background. It's stopping them from getting where they want to be. It's making them procrastinate because they just, they can't focus. Like when you've got this feeling of urgency, you can't focus on anything but the feeling.

Emily (09:37.418)
And if you're not careful, it manifests into things like headaches, exhaustion, brain fog. what I always do is bring them back to a place that's safe. One thing that you could do actually today, that's without having a safety resource, is just noticing when you feel that urgency and how it feels in the body. And the next step for that is allowing yourself to not take an action. Okay, and this is actually how I learned to deal with it.

when I started all my training, it's noticing the laundry pile is there and that you have to go clean and just not. And noticing how just not doing it is also scary and allowing it to be there too. So it's a journey and I wanted to just jump on here and explain my experience of feeling this constant urgency all the time and I wanted to explain how there is bad urgency and there's

good urgency and we should really learn how to manage and process the bad urgency and how we could do it incrementally. hopefully that was helpful. can see that Jatin has got some questions here. How to balance overwhelm and gaining knowledge. Okay, so I'm interpreting this as you feel this overwhelming need to study or always have the knowledge and I can see that you're in Web 3 so.

I understand this because in the web through industry, that's where my whole career was prior to my business. It's this constant need to be on top of everything all the time. It's like, if I don't know all the current market status or the new project or the new product or the new launch or whatever, then I'm behind and I'm not good enough. Okay. It comes back to this. So I will just say to you, Jatin, notice when that feeling starts to come up. So when do you start thinking?

that you have to learn all this stuff or like really start to know. I can't answer this for you because I don't have enough information. But when you start to notice the overwhelm, just notice what does overwhelm feel like? Step one, because when you know how it feels, then you're able to understand what it needs. There's no quick fix to this. I can teach you all the overwhelm tools in the world, right? All the quick fixes, but it's not going to help you long-term. And I would prefer to help.

Emily (12:03.374)
everybody support their nervous system, support their stuck emotions and move them out of their body long term. Now, if there is something that you would really like support on, feel free to DM me, send me a question, happy to help. I can talk about this stuff all day every day. But I also have something, depending on where you're at right now, that might help. I have a guide to help with boosting your energy. And even if that's not a problem for you,

There's a few tools in there that you could use. For example, there's one around pausing and reflecting and resetting. And basically that's you being able to notice when you're feeling overwhelmed, noticing what you feel like doing and refocusing on what you need to be doing instead. Okay. I hope that's been helpful for you. Go away. Have a think about this. Go have a feel into if this urgency comes up for you and what that feels like for you. And also notice like

what it's telling you to do because more often than not, you can reassure it that you don't need to be doing that thing, okay? Have a wonderful evening everybody and I will be back soon.