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Hi guys, welcome back to Bubbling Out. I am Emily Rose Dallara, your host. And here we talk all things high performance and the nervous system. We talk about how that impacts you as a leader, a leader of your business, of your life, and how it helps you to just really achieve the big dreams in your life that you want to achieve, how it helps you be a better person, how it helps you feel fucking amazing. We talk about all these things here. It's really interesting. Just stay here. Hi everybody who already knows who I am. ⁓

talk to you today about how manifestation has become a real big thing for me in the last few years and for my husband Antoine. I have always been in the woo world, for the last I guess 15 years I've been pretty woo. If you listen back to a few of the episodes ⁓ you'll be able to hear the stories around that but...

I have in the last six months, I would say, noticed how all of the nervous system work that I do has actually helped me to become a better manifester. And it's so funny because me and Antoine call ourselves like the super team, super manifesting team, right? We together literally get whatever the fuck we want. Like honestly, this year we've said we wanted something over the last year, like so starting from this time last year.

We've said we wanted something and it literally happened. And it's so funny because, especially when it comes to work and business, right, I might...

decide that I want to work with a specific person or industry, right? And I will try, I will try all the strategies and tactics to make that happen. And sometimes I make no dent. It like doesn't work. And I'm like, hmm, let's try a different strategy. But every time I have approached it from a manifestation perspective. So I've written down everything that I want. I've visualized it. I've embodied it. I've accepted that it will happen. It's just happened like this. It's like literally falling into my plate.

For an example last year. I decided you know I would love another advisory role. I love doing this I like to get into teams and I like to bring the nervous system where the performance work I like to bring my experience as a CMO and ⁓ a person who's obsessed with product marketing into teams and I would love to do that again for a specific industry I wanted to work with a crypto company because I've done this in millions of times like I can do this off like with my eyes closed I love it, and I really like I really see a huge impact

when I jump into these teams because in this industry specifically, things are mashed up, they're upside down. And so if you just make a few small changes, things can dramatically shift for the better. And so I really wanted this kind of gig. And so I tried all the things. I was doing the outreach. I was doing the email marketing. I was doing the referral marketing. I was messaging my people like, hey, who do you know? Blah, blah, blah, And.

I was also working on my own money mindset and I was doing all my regulation stuff.

And I was also actively manifesting this stuff. So I was sitting down every day and I was looking at my desire list. So I wrote a desire list in detail of exactly the kind of client I wanted, how much they would pay me and how much time it would take me to be working with them each week. I had a very specific plan. And so I wrote all this stuff down whilst doing the regulation, whilst doing the money mindset work. And none of the stuff was working, if I'm going to be honest. Like none of the physical strategic stuff was working.

And I was like, hmm, just trust in the process, keep going. And literally, I think it was about...

a week after I'd written down my desires list, somebody messaged me and said, hey, ⁓ are you still doing advisory work? Somebody from my past, like six years ago, who I have not talked to for a long time, I was like, yeah, I am, actually. Tell me more. And so we got down the conversation route, talked to the team they were working with and the CEO and everything, and it was so funny. And I literally said this to them afterwards. I manifested you guys because they

They paid me what I asked for, is exactly what was written on my piece of paper. They agreed to the hours that I said I wanted to work with them and I was working in the capacity I wanted to work with them with, which was like performance and growth.

I nailed it, right? And it was so funny because I didn't try to get this client to get this client. They just landed on my lap because I put it out there and it was like, thank you, universe. So that happened. Then the next thing that happened was another one arrived in my, in my messaging that I never like I was on telegram. I was checking telegram. Then there's this message from like a week ago, asking me the same question. Second client, same thing landed in my inbox. It was crazy, right?

is a coincidence. And I've literally just repeated this process loads of times and got everything I wanted. So we wanted a house in a country. One week later in Antoine's inbox, boom, house in the country, got it, done, deal. Antoine wanted a Tesla. He was like, hmm, not sure I can get a Tesla in France, you know, because I don't want to buy it outright. I don't see the point in putting all that cash in a car. Maybe I can like get a loan or something, right, to get this car.

and we haven't lived in France very long. He's lived outside the country for like many years. I'm an expert. I don't have access to many banking facilities here. I'm an alien, they call me in France. And he was like, I don't think we're going to get it, but like, let's just go to the Tesla store, drive the Tesla around. Let's just get a feel for the car and like imagine what our life will be like in this car, where we'll go, the adventures we'll have. So we did that. And then literally he got accepted

for the loan he wanted, he really didn't expect it. And he got the car literally two weeks later or something. Like brand new model, loves it, best thing he ever did. And now we do the same with houses that we wanna buy. And so he listens, he gets ⁓ emails every week from the people who buy, who sell houses, realtors, I guess. And then he sends me all the links, he's like, should we go look at this? Let's go look at this. I'm like, yeah, let's go. Because you have to experience really fully what you want.

and get to the same level in a regulated state so that you can actually receive these things.

I learned a lot of this stuff from manifestation pros, Donna and Cheryl. I've done a podcast episode with them. So go scroll back. ⁓ I learned a lot of this from them. And then I add the regulation stuff. So you can't manifest from a dysregulated state. So if you're sat back with your manifestation list, your desires list, however you do it, and you're feeling anxious and stressed about it, it's not going to work. You need to feel very regulated and you can do that with loads of different ways. Listen back to a few of my episodes. go through a few of

the ways to do it but it's as simple as doing a physiological sigh, breathing two in through the nose out through the mouth a few times getting your body into a regulated state and when you're there

then you can start to bring up the things that you wanna manifest. The way I do it is I have my list and I've kind of like, I already know what I wanna do now, it's all memorized, and I practice something called resourcing, which is a somatic tool that I use. And when I practice this tool, it helps me to get really fast into a regulated state, and I bring to mind the situation that I want to happen.

like the thing that I want to manifest, I imagine the situation. So for example, the house that I'm manifesting, it's me dropping onto the sun lounger. Like I can literally feel the sun lounger underneath my feet every time. And Antoine's walking out of the door. We have big glass doors, it's like an L shape with a big backyard. Walking out the door is bringing me a juice.

That's the situation I have in my mind. Sometimes it's a bit different. Sometimes I'm walking out of the gym in the house in the backyard, because we're going to have a gym with a sauna. We walk out and I go into the cold plunge and I feel it all, right? And I fully embody it. And I know it's going to arrive at some point. Who knows when? But at some point it's going to arrive. I have no idea how or when. I just let go of all this stuff. But I know that I wouldn't be able to get into that.

state without doing the regulation first. Same applies to business, same applies to anything you're trying to achieve in life. The most successful people that I know do this, right? It's only people who have not had a level of success who think that manifestation is too woo, right? Honestly, all the millionaire CEOs I work with are doing this shit. In fact, that's sometimes that's all they come to me for is

the energetic and somatic work because they're like I know the strategy I know like we don't need coaching to like help me get the shit done anymore I just want to focus on the energetic side and so that's all we do and they get results like this and I just want to tell you about this because it's possible for you as well and it's even cooler when you have a partner or a bestie or whatever in your life who you can do it together with and you can like maybe you you and your bestie want to like go to an amazing yoga retreat so you like literally imagine that like

Me and Antoine have, like we look at these pictures of the houses and he's got actually a different version of the house in his head, but we've kind of like discussed it. So we kind of know what we're looking for. It's really interesting. Another one actually was interesting. I really wanted to go back to Vietnam, really was missing Vietnam. Like this is a big thing of mine. I made a reel about it recently about how difficult it is to leave your country that you love.

I mean, I'm not Vietnamese, but it's difficult to leave a country that you loved when you were an expat there. And I was like, really miss Vietnam. I can't wait to go back. It's going to be amazing when we go back. Literally a week later, my best friend in Vietnam texted me and said, hey, what are you doing in March? I'm getting married.

Right? It's so cool. Like it's so cool. You can achieve this stuff too. So the first thing you need to do is regulate. Okay. Get regulated, do whatever it takes to get regulated. Listen back to a few of my episodes. go through a few tools. If you want to learn a really nice tool to get regulated really quickly. I've got a really nice three step one that I've just recorded. ⁓ and you can go get it at emilyrosedallara.com/reset It's like a full nervous system reset where you can

drop into this regulated state really, really easily, even if you're super, super anxious or super overwhelmed. I really like that one. Go on my Instagram as well. I'm always dropping little regulation tools. Or you can come and join Align to Rise, which helps you to get regulated and be a high performer at the same time. So you need to get regulated. And then you need to get aligned on what you want. So what is it that I actually want to call in? Right?

And then you have to just bring to mind a situation that you really want to call in. So it might be you in the garden of your new home. It might be you snuggling with your dog. Whatever it is, bring that to mind and feel it in your whole body. Feel how your body opens up. Notice the smile on your face. And that's the key. If you don't feel it, it doesn't happen.

You have to get yourself, and if we're going a bit more woo, you have to get yourself to the energetic frequency that that is on. You have to match it. And that's where you can kind of jump timelines, as they call it, in the energetics world. So that's all you need to do. You need to regulate, and you need to get really clear on what you want, and you need to fully embody it.

That was a lot to take in. I want you to go and try it out. Comment below how it went for you and also send me a DM on Instagram. If you want more of this stuff, let me know what works for you because I really want to make sure that I'm making content that is like super beneficial for you high performers out there. And I feel like manifestation is one that we don't talk enough about. Have a wonderful day and I will see you next time.